So, you’ve found the one you want to spend forever with… but you have yet to make it official with a ring. Let’s face it — you know exactly what you want, and you probably have for quite some time. Your future fiancé, on the other hand, is probably not as sure where to start shopping, what your exact ring size is, or even the style of diamond you prefer.
Fortunately, there are ways for you to drop hints without completely spilling the beans or, worse yet, taking a trip together to pick out your ring. The latter is certainly an effective option, but it removes some of the surprise and romance of the whole engagement process. If you give your fiancé a loose idea and let him run with it, you’ll both be pleased with the end result: a ring that reflects you and represents how well he knows you.
So, how can you do it? How can you subtly give your fiancé an idea of your personal style and the ring that matches? Here are four hints for how to do it without spoiling the fun of a surprise engagement ring (or engagement, for that matter):
1. Decipher Your Bridal Style — And Know What You Want
There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all engagement ring. That applies to both the ring’s physical size and its style. And, in order to decide the style of ring that best suits that left-hand finger, you might want to consider the type of bride you envision yourself to be.
Obviously, you don’t want to reveal your entire envisioned look to your fiancé-to-be. But figuring out the style you want to wear on your big day — whether it’s glam, bohemian or classic — will help you decide the type of ring you want. Certain diamond cuts do tend to suit particular dress styles, so be sure to imagine the entire look before you drop hints as to the type of ring you want.
2. Have a Family Member or Friend Intervene
Telling your fiancé exactly which ring you want can spoil all of the fun. But if you want to give him or her a big hint as to the style you want, consult with a close friend or family member. Show him or her the type of ring you envision on that finger. If you trust your friend or your sibling enough to relay the information, then the chosen ring should fit your specifications without ruining the surprise of what your fiancé picks.
3. Open Up Some (Not So) Subtle Web Pages
The boldest of fiancés before you have sent a loud-and-clear message to their significant others through Google Chrome, Internet Explorer or Firefox. They’ve simply left open some web pages showing the type of ring they want — and that’s it.
This is one of the boldest moves you can make, especially if you’re not sure whether or not your boyfriend or girlfriend is ready for the step you are hoping to take. In fact, this maneuver might best serve those 100 percent sure it’s time to get engaged.
All you have to do is leave open a web browser or magazine ot the page displaying the ring of your choice. If you’ve talked about marriage and a future, there’s no doubt that the image will be taken as a hint.
4. Be As Open As You Want
To that end, the most important piece of your relationship is likely the trust shared between you and your fiancé — it’s not the ring he or she buys to seal the deal. So, you can take that advice in one of two ways: you can accept any ring you’re given or decide to take charge and give a bit of guidance as to the style you envision. In the end, it’s up to you to take charge since you’ll be the one wearing the ring in the end.
And, at the end of the day, the ring symbolizes so much more: a happy life together, most importantly. So, don’t get too caught up on the look of the ring but what it represents and enjoy this happy time in your life. It’s the beginning of many shared memories, after all.