Recently, I’ve been transitioning into minimalism. Minimalists live by the mantra: “Be more with less”. As an avid shopper (and wedding supply connoisseur), the biggest area of my life I was concerned about minimizing was our wedding. Since getting engaged, I’ve probably spent over $400 on books, planners, ring dishes, wine glasses, monograms, and gifts for my bridesmaids! It adds up, and ordering 7 monogrammed wine glasses on Etsy quickly add to up to over $100.
How the hell am I supposed to do this wedding planning thing for another year without totally forgoing my minimalism ideals?? I kind of figured it out.
Minimalist Ideal #1: Quality over quantity.
It’s said about everything, but no one really follows it. (You know you still shop at Forever21!) When you’re scouring the internet for a cute ring box, take careful consideration on whether or not it’ll be something you’ll love not only until the wedding but something you can use well past the big day without fear of it breaking or falling apart.
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Minimalist Ideal #2: Only keep what you truly love.
This is tough, especially with a wedding. People are constantly getting you little gifts and treats, and they aren’t always necessary items. Rather than turning them away, though, we tend to keep them and they collect dust among the other things we bought for the wedding that we ended up not really using. If this seems to be an issue, donating or recycling those things may be a good idea. Turning them into something you love for your wedding day (or even the rehearsal dinner) would be a great way to still use a gift from someone dear. Donation is always another road to go down, which could help in gifting someone else with something they didn’t even know they needed for their own special day.
Minimalist Ideal #3: Do not own anything you do not see as beautiful.
This is HUGE for wedding planning, and especially your wedding day. Brides are so ridiculously picky about their dress, shoes, and hair; why should your wedding planner/diary/photo album be any different? That’s something you keep longer than the shoes, something you’ll look at more often, and something you can truly cherish for a lifetime. I messed up and bought a wedding planner that didn’t fit the needs I had during my first stage of planning, and recently spent $68 on a different one, which included every SINGLE thing I needed. I could have an extra $30 and a few months of planning. Do your research on everything you want to buy, and make sure it is visually and mindfully everything you want and need.
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Minimalist Ideal #4: Do more with less.
When I see this, wedding decor comes to mind. After the big day, where do all those mason jar centerpieces, flowers, champagne flutes, tablecloths, and string lights go? To your house? The trash? We spend so much money making beautiful venues more colorful, more glitzy, more sparkly, more full. Why? To impress our sweet (albeit, drunk) friends & family who are there solely to see the beginnings of our marriage? Decor is a huge part of the party, and I am so for gold everything; from the flatware to the aisle runner. But making sure you can either donate, sell, or keep these things in your home after the wedding is an important factor when choosing decorations and favors for your attendants. Make smart decisions by talking to your groom and venue coordinator, especially because it might be smarter to rent certain things!
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From one minimalist to another, I truly hope the wedding planning process is a calming, enriching, wonderful experience. Never lose sight of why this is happening, despite the craziness of all the parties, events, and tastings. Keep love at the center of everything.
All my love,