What were the top priorities for you in planning your wedding?
The top priorities for my wedding were simple. I wanted this day not to be about the flowers or the cake – but about the commitment that was being made. I wanted to revolve this day around honesty, trust, memories, and most of all family because that is what this day really is all about.
I spent more time writing a letter to give to my future husband before meeting him at the alter than I did searching for decor, silly I know, but to me that letter was more important and would last longer than any flower or “Pick a seat – not a side” sign.
Did you have a wedding planner? If so, what was your experience with them?
This one is tricky – while I did not have a “Wedding Planner” per say I did have my mom (who had her own party planning and event business for 20 years) so she took over this role for us which I think is what helped make this day so carefree and relaxed. No one knows my style better than her and no one wanted a more beautiful day for us than her, so she really took over the reins and made our day a dream come true.
Throughout your wedding planning did you have a moment when you were a Bummed Bride? If so, how did you overcome it?
Throughout the planning processed I had a few moments where I was a Bummed Bride. I faced A LOT of issues finding a caterer, florist, and cake company.
Note to self: Always check TWO calendars before choosing your date! My husband and I looked at the only calendar that did not have 5.10.15 marked as Mother's Day – which made finding a florist near impossible.
Thank god for big favors and family friends that happen to “know someone in the business” …
During these frustrating times I tried to remind myself that this really is just ONE DAY in our journey and that no matter what color flowers we had, the cake flavor, or where people parked we were going to be making a commitment to one another and NOTHING could get in the way of that. I also tried to see the good in every situation and make the most of it, even if it meant just laughing at everything that had gone wrong – near the end of the planning process my friends and I had a joke that if something went easy it was obviously not for the Rhone wedding!
Did you do a first look? Would you recommend it to future brides?
I did not do a first look however I do recommend this idea to all future brides… I think it is a sweet moment to share with your husband to be! The only reason I chose not to was because knowing myself, I didn't want to cry and ruin my makeup before pictures. Silly I know, but I am a crier!!
What was your favorite part of wedding planning?
My favorite part of wedding planning was seeing it all come together. I was one of those weird brides that weren't really into planning or going above and beyond. I just winged it and hoped for the best (thankfully, my mom had lots of ideas up her sleeve and made this day wonderful for us)
What is your best advice to future brides?
My advice to future brides is to remember to soak it all in and have fun! The day of the wedding can be stressful, exciting, yet nerve-wracking, but try to have fun!
My favorite memories of my wedding day are waking up with my closest friends, drinking coffee in our PJ's, jumping on the bed screaming and carrying on because “TODAY'S THE DAY”!
We actually jumped so much the bed broke which made us all laugh until we cried.
I remember eating pizza and french fries because what the heck, the dress would fit no matter what I ate that day. I remember waking up and running to my see my mom and tell her how excited I was (remember, this day is as important to parents as it is for you) but most of all I remember everyone's smiles!
It was such a happy day, and I am glad I was laid back and relaxed enough to enjoy these little things.
Tell us about your trash the dress experience. Would you recommend it to future brides?
My trash the dress experience was one to remember. Thinking back the only word that comes to mind is COLD!
We got married in early May in Delaware so the water was only about 52 degrees at the time, but there was no way I was not getting at least one photo (and that's exactly what I got).
While my experience was not the fun experience I had dreamed of I still recommend it to all brides because it was a fun memory for my husband and I to share. It's something to look back and say “wow we were crazy for doing that” and it's my favorite photo from our wedding!
Photography: Amanda Eberts