When making your guest list it seems as though you’re inviting 10 million people you aren't even quite sure if you know. Your parent’s friends, your grandparent’s friends, your fiances cousin’s boyfriend, I could go on….. But where do you stop?
Pretty much everyone you know is going to ask you if it’s okay if they bring someone, well maybe not everyone, but I think you get the idea.
How many weddings have you been to in your lifetime? Probably a few, huh? Did you get to bring a plus one? If so, how old were you? Were you visiting from out of town? These might be a few questions you want to consider when determining if you want to let your guests bring a plus one.
Let’s go over the basics.
First of all people do not like to be told no, in general, but especially when it comes to whether they can bring a date or not. So right off you have to be okay with not being everyone’s favorite girl, unless you are willing to spend $$$ in order to feed and accommodate your guests’ guests.
But, in all seriousness, if/when you do say no (in your sweetest voice) they should be respectful of the fact that weddings are outrageous and that you need to cut costs where you can.
- Making it known that you are on a budget, does not make you sound cheap, it makes you sound normal! And when people know they are most of the time more understanding.
- But remember if someone in your family is engaged or has a live in partner, obviously you have to include them in your invites.
- Some couples choose to give plus ones to guests over 18.
- If you’re inviting a single friend from out of town who isn't going to know many of your wedding guests, you may want to consider letting them bring a plus one. After all, they are spending all that money and effort to be there for you.
Whatever you decide make sure you treat everyone fair, play nice (don’t leave people out on purpose), try and treat everyone the same. This is especially true when it comes to your bridal party, let them bring their significant others (if you can)!
Those are a few little tidbits from us, but what do you think?
How are YOU dealing with this issue?